Chisholm ate and ate to make herself unattractive to men.Sounds like the beginings of a self-writing joke. The subject of this piece, Caroline Chisholm, by this account a hardworking tenacious woman with real gumption, "ate and ate to make herself unattractive to men" because she'd been sexually abused for some months by her landlord, an awful experience. One she escaped through her own actions.
She continued her weight-gain diet though, in order to ward off men/rapists. We all know sexual assault happens when people are so overwhelmed by the attractiveness of a person that in their enthusiasm, they neglect to gain consent.....
She knew it had gone too far when she had to resort to ordering her clothes from the US. It was costing her a fortune.So, she ate and ate despite becoming a "virtual recluse", despite being unable to take her daughter to school, despite her swollen legs and other pains, despite being unable to get clothes in the UK. She was haunted by the fear of sexual assault you see....
Until she got the clothes bill. Then she said, "I'm haunted by the fear of sexual assault, but at these prices? I'll take my chances!"
Now, I know what you might be thinking, I've gone too far, but this really isn't about me. It's about the mindset of middle/upper class feminist literate women who are so keen on directing fat people into calorie restriciton and to keeping hold of their dominance of fatness, that they'll use anything in service of it.
Matilda Moffett, the psychologist at the bariatric unit in Monkseaton medical centre belonging to Northumbria Healthcare trust, helped her talk about the abuse by her former landlord. “I thought the only way to deal with that was to get so big and disgusting that he wouldn’t come near me,” says Chisholm.Oh I'll bet she "helped".
Chisholm struggled, though, until she saw Matilda. “I was scared to lose weight in case it [abuse] happened again,” she says. “I had to deal with that. She listened and asked questions which helped me understand it. I realised it was not my fault and it was nothing to do with the way I looked.”Experiencing any kind of assault can lead us to experience feelings of culpability. Those feelings come from the injury not only to ourselves, but our sense of autonomy. Questioning of ourselves tends to centre on examining our actions, attitudes and reactions. People do not usually seek to damage themselves, they tend to resolve to change some aspect of their behaviour. Even anorexics might say, "I wanted to disappear." I'm not saying I believe that is the right or wrong interpretation, I'm talking about what people themselves say.
When we hear a report of Roxane Gay talking of the aftermath of the horrific rape she endured,
She began to put on weight quickly, gaining 40lb, and her parents sent her to fat camp, where she lost the weight, and then regained it. Putting on weight was "an intense form of control", Gay says. The boys in the woods had taken her body, "and they broke it. I will never get that body back, and I hate that, because it was a good body. But they took it; they ruined it. And so, when I ate, I got to make my body into what I wanted it to be, which is a fortress."No matter what you think of the tenor of this piece, Gay said, a fortress.
When people speak of wanting to do something to protect themselves from sexual assault, they tend to speak of empowerment of some sort. Of making themselves look or seem bigger and/or more threatening. Being fat doesn't make you rape-proof, though it may well make you less likely to be raped than others of a slighter stature.
Though its hard to say this, many rapists and sexual abusers are cowardly. They feel encouraged only by what they perceive as weakness. Like any criminals, they have a process of selecting their targets. A small/slim person can be lifted off their feet. Fatness may well present a greater challenge on the face of it than slimness enough to put off someone looking to assert themselves at the expense of someone else.
As for the perception of choosing weight, you can consider what that means for those who are raped and do not gain weight. Are we really expected to believe they're not as keen on avoiding futher assault? It seems to establish a hierarchy of reluctance to be raped. That's not only unsavoury, it doesn't ring true.
So where does the idea that sexual assault is a complement to your looks come from? Rapists and child sex abusers, another vehicle for this line. Always looking to minimize or excuse their actions, if only to themsleves, often by invoking some idea of collusion from their victims. They've been known to say that if the person or child wasn't so attractive, they'd have left them alone, to their victims, whilst assaulting them.
There's a steady stream of people getting involved in fat acceptance who insist, fat people keep slimmer people away by not being sufficiently willing to take on board the criticisms of others, thereby alienating them. Well, here's agreement between sex abusers and feminists.
What a kumbaya moment. If only we could all just get along indeed!
Chisholm is one of the vast majority of morbidly obese patients who have psychological issues that urgently need to be addressed.Everyone has "psychological issues" of one kind or another, and virtually everyone's health would be improved by dealing with them effectively. It's tendentious to cite this as the 'cause' of "obesity/morbid obesity". And no, that's not a facile, "everyone's bisexual" kind of point. We all have to knock something out of ourselves to fit into whatever society is ours. That's the nature of existence.
Now bariatric surgery has entered this Maoist re-education phase, who's sanity do you feel is most in question here?
Another fundamental problem is the continued refusal to diagnose according to the symptoms of the actual problem, rather than imposing desired thinking. Inaccurate diagnosis stifles self perception. There's something cruel about blocking a person's ability to understand themselves properly, for the sake of your own gratification. Instead inserting what you want them to believe into their heads.
Chisholm is called a "binge eater", propagandising for the idea that people "use" food like a drug, eating when they're not hungry in order to eat/deal with their fee fees and boo boos. From reading her story I'd say CC probably had hyperphagia nervosa. That's when excessive or hyperhunger is present, with no known physiological injury and is instead partly or wholly caused by imbalance in (the functioning of) the nervous system. For example too much strain, pressure, stress reverberates through the system, triggering, heightening, sensitizing excess functioning in many areas, hunger inclusive.
In the case of hyperphagia, I feel it's like certain forms of chronic pain syndrome-where pain is caused by the body's (lowered) levels of pleasure chemicals. The pain of our bodies functioning, normally masked by the right chemical mix, starts to come through. Like when a person isn't given enough anesthetic for an operation. Hunger seems to function in a similar way (this may or may not affect levels of spontaneous thermogenesis). Hence why it feels like eating before this acute stage is eating in the absence of hunger.
CC would seem to be case of this supposed eating without hunger;
Breakfast was toast and cereal. She would get through 10 packets of crisps at work and order a jacket potato for lunch which would be delivered if the order was over £10, so she would add a sandwich as an afternoon snack. On the way home she bought a large Big Mac meal with chips and a drink, a large McChicken sandwich meal, a double Cheeseburger and a wrap. She began eating them in the taxi and finished them at home. Around 8pm she would have two 12in pizzas delivered – buy one, get one free – and eat both. “I did that every single day,” she says.I'd be surprised if you got much change from 10,000 calories, if its not more. Post gastric sleeve,
She physically cannot eat more than a few mouthfuls at a time. Some foods, such as bread and chewy meats, are hard to get down. She feels full very fast and cannot eat within half an hour of drinking anything.Doesn't that sound the picture of health? More like someone who's dying. Anyhow the message is, lack of hunger is why she lost over 300lbs and more than 150kgs. LACK OF HUNGER. Because she had HYPERPHAGIA, which is an EXCESS OF HUNGER.
Assertions of eating without hunger are purely for the convienience of support the notion of eating as simply a conscious decision based on habit or faddiction, rather than a response to an innate life sustaining urge.
That so many fat people are convinced of this too, "Overweight people don’t eat because we’re hungry" suggests fat people's eating and hunger function is mainly pretty average. The difference between a fat person and a slim one is the latter can have an eating/hunger disorder and not know it, whereas fat people tend to assume they have a eating/hunger disorder until they happen to find out they don't.
You can tell there is zero critical assessment going on-when these people effortlessly nuke their own wishful thinking and don't even realise it. They all think exactly the same way, including this journalist. The downside of pursuing the falsification of biology, is you don't always know what you've got. Seems you need knowledge of the truth, to hide it properly.
And yes, this is obviously the easier way to diet. That's not judgement of the person, it just tells you what dieting is. So untenable that it requires you to be cut into it, to have any real chance-temporarily. For this is only an aid to get you started. They make it clear that the amount you lose or re-gain is solely down to your own efforts. The latter especially is the same old nasty line.
The first 2-4 weeks following surgery can be challenging. It may be uncomfortable or painful to eat, but this is a normal part of the healing process.....That's from a support site for people undergoing full gastrectomy-stomach removal-not "a stomach-reducing operation". Note what's presented as "weight-loss surgery" for fat people is presented as what it is- the body's healing process after a major insult......
The goal after surgery is to work toward settling into a “new normal”, allowing the body to heal and adjust to the loss of the stomach over time. At the same time it is important to try to consume as many calories as possible to minimize rapid weight loss in the first few months following surgery, and to take in nutrients that the body needs to aid in the healing process. Starting to eat and drink again can be difficult, requiring a determined effort. It’s a lot of work, and sometimes feels as though life suddenly revolves around eating and drinking – what, when, where and how much. Familiar sensations of hunger may be lost, replaced by feelings of weakness and emptiness. In the beginning eating and drinking is out of necessity, soon to become habit, and eventually the desire to eat and enjoyment of food returns.My emphasis.
It also says, "It may a year or two, but eventually the body seems to adjust quite well to the absence of the stomach." That's the so called life saving weight loss surgery, but worse. The aim for fat people is to behave as if they haven't healed.
Despite having weighed, 40stones/560lbs/254kgs, Chisholm's metabolic function was amenable to alteration. The establishment refuses to support and push for the correct and therefore humane way/s to bring this about. Insisting on sticking everyone in the prison of calorie restriction at all and any cost.
All she needed was means to restore the balance of her body and/or simply to dial down her hunger. If they'd just been able to bring that down, the situation would have been arrested at an early stage. Instead she was 'advised' to lose weight. By being told to "lose weight". As she didn't "lose weight" by magic, this counted as "ignored advice to lose weight."
What that 24 stones/336lbs/152kgs represents is how the 'obesity' cult deliberately holds you ransom to your bodies ability to gain weight, using susceptibility and personal misfortune as allies. Then has the nerve to claim treating you like a ventriloquist's dummy before butchering your organs is "life saving".
Again I ask, does this feel like the influence of sanity to you? The very thing that is provoking anxiety, lack of means of controlling weight, is being maintained by the very people with the greatest urge to act out this anxiety, on other people's lives and bodies.
Here are people who have done something we've all done/will do and that is to kid ourselves that something we either know or suspect doesn't work, will work if we just force it hard enough. There's no one to tell these people NO, STOP or simply, GET A HOLD OF YOURSELVES. They're all on the same page so they just keep on trucking.
I think you'll find all this more than meets their definition of "behavioural addiction", except with fat bodies and minds as the vehicle for their compulsions, rather than their own.
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